Sample ~ Third Competency ~ part three
Theatrical Prompt for Reflection
man offers love with residual motivation
It also refers to a female dog, wolf, fox or otter. So don’t assume the meaning of my words. I could have meant a lot of things by that. In other cultures, it means any number of things. One word can have a lot of meanings—it just depends on one’s own meaning, one’s interjecting, one’s own interjection, injection. All right? All right!
You are a bitch! You are an unyielding, hard-as-nails, tough, callous, rude, rigid bitch! And regardless of what you think I mean by that…I’m an observer, I don’t judge, I observe, I notice and I communicate. I share. Why bother having observations that you are not prepared to share and I’m prepared, for the first time in my life, to share my observations with you and my concern. I am concerned—you’re my sister. I am concerned about your being a bitch—not judgmentally, not derogatorily but compassionately. You’ve suffered the casualty of divorce because, and I’m observing here, people don’t want to stay married to a bitch. Hal didn’t—that’s precisely why he left you. He observed, he reacted. Now what can we do about this? And don’t tell me you don’t need anybody because that’s just negligent. You have needs too and they must be addressed. It’s your duty and I’ll help you. I am helping you.
Your primary need, and I’m observing this now, is to take your waning social skills in hand and convert them, as soon as you are able, into something a little more agreeable because you are your own worst enemy. Hal cared, he really did, but you just didn’t see it. I’m not taking sides, but the guy has a point.
Now, if you’re going to continue to be a bitch, my assessment of the situation is that it’s not irrevocable but you’re going to have to —you’re going to walk out while I’m sharing my observations? Bitch! Ungrateful bitch.
A gentle reminder of the Third Competency:
‘The question is,’ said Alice, ‘ whether you can make words mean so many different things.’
‘ The question is,’ said Humpty Dumpty, ‘ which is to be master — that’s all.’
~ Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking Glass
Questions for discussion and reflection
Explore your needs in those situations and state them.